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Self-Acceptance & Self-Esteem

November 10, 2010

Self-Esteem + Self-Confidence + Self-Respect = Self Worth

In my book, It Has A Name, i discuss how to rebuild self-esteem after being abused by controlling, abusive unhealthy narcissists. Undoing the lessons learned from interacting with these people is very important: (i) they cannot reciprocate real adult feelings and (ii) they offer no genuine respect. If we do not understand why they are treating us this way, our self-confidence may suffer, in fact we will suffer something called narcissistic wounding, meaning our own sense of self will be damaged. If it was our parent, or parents treating us this way we need to relearn that respect is a two-way street. We need to associate with people who are capable of an exhibiting real respect toward others, meaning respect for you and your interests without an agenda to use you for their own gain. When you receive respect this important dynamic supports you for who you are, what you think, how your feel and your interests, and you will start to regain confidence – and this leads to improved self-esteem. Strong self-esteem produces even more confidence in oneself. Combine self-respect with self-esteem and your self-worth will improve. Overall, when we remove ourself from the orbit of a controlling, abusive unhealthy narcissistic person, we have the opportunity to see our self-worth in a whole new healthy light. This lends to true self-acceptance: this is who i am, i am a good person, i am of value. Rebuilding our self-image helps us to know how truly unique we are and that we are deserving of others love and respect. It all works together.

To read more about life after the narcissist, buy my book, It Has A Name! by clicking on the upper right hand corner image.

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